Finally you have found someone perfect.

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Hello everyone. I am not sure if you can guess the subject of today’s post by the title/photo but it is something that has come up in quite a few conversations lately so I figured I would write about it.

Marriage. I believe I wrote a post a while back about this adorable married couple I know and the insight I got from them on how to make it work and etc. So, lately I have been having these discussions with my sister, and she believes that I am totally living in some fantasy world. You see, despite what it may seem like from reading my blog, I am actually not a cynical person when it comes to love. Oh boy do I believe in love. I mean REALLY believe in it. The whole boy meets girl, boy and girl fall madly in love, get married and start a family… you know how the story goes. And why shouldn’t it go like that? Is it that hard to fathom that there is someone out there that is just perfect for you and when you meet him you just know? I am not completely unrealistic, I know that there is more to marriage than just love and I know that love isn’t always enough, trust me I know that. But that doesn’t mean that love isn’t a huge part of it. If anything I believe that love is like, the MAIN part of it… right?

Now my sister seems to think that because of my “fantasy” that I am living in I will have a very difficult time settling down and getting married. She says this because she believes that marriage is a business deal and the whole purpose is to find someone who will be a good husband to me and a good father to our children (when that time comes). He will be someone who will love our children and take care of us the way we need to be taken care of. That doesn’t mean I don’t need to have a job or whatever it isn’t all about finances but just in the grand scheme of things he is the right guy for the task at hand. When she said this I told her I don’t think that is how it is, I feel that if I don’t marry for love then I will wake up one day full of regret and unhappiness and want to leave him, and my biggest fear of marriage is to follow in my parents footsteps and raise my hypothetical children in a broken home. Her response to this was: “You know what you do when you wake up unhappy and want to leave? You get up, you go and play with your kids that you had with this man, you think about how good he is to those kids, and then you go to sleep. Because chances are those feelings will pass by the time you wake up”. Yeah… that is the wisdom I get from my older sister ha ha.

So who knows, maybe my ideals on love and marriage will make me actually achieving them difficult, I suppose only time will tell. All I know is that I would rather live my entire life alone than marry someone just because it was the “logical” thing to do. I don’t need some whimsical romance to sweep me off my feet like in the movies but it that much to ask to actually connect with someone and just get lost in it? I mean yeah I want to be smart about it, I want us to have careers, and I want us to be able to build a life together comfortably. But can’t you have that and be in love?

Anyway, for now, I love the fairytale I am living in. There may not be a knight in shining armor just yet, but that’s okay, I am all the hero I need at the moment.

xoxo.

[Currently Listening to: Hard to Concentrate by Red Hot Chili Peppers]

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2 thoughts on “Finally you have found someone perfect.

  1. What a lovely post!!, it’s nice to know that there’s ladies out there on the same page as me in terms of love and marriage, I too get grilled abit by my older brother an friends about falling in love getting married and building a family together, hell I even had it kinda planned out, and I never officially asked my girl at the time to marry me but she did say yes and I wrote a song for her etc, and she left me because of my job and money etc (I’ve explained abit in my older posts) and I truly loved her, I’m talking old school Disney/rom com type of love and it wasn’t enough, it made me bitter and made me think that girls are more material than they are interested in love like you are, I don’t know why I’m blurbing on haha but it’s nice to restore my faith that there’s ladies out there who still believe the same way I do!

    Great post :).

    G.S 🌹🌹

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    • Oh thanks for reading and for sharing your point of view! It’s nice to hear that from a guys perspective! Im so sorry about what happened with you and your girl I’m definitely going to have to check out your blog. I hope your views turn around because love is just so beautiful isn’t it? In my older posts I write about my ex who definitely damaged my views on love for a bit and I definitely have commitment issues but I still believe in love so much!

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