Hello everyone! I know it has been like… FOREVER since my last post. I apologize. Who knew life with a new baby kitten would be SO time consuming? Okay maybe I did a little bit, but still, I was hoping I would still find time to do the things I enjoy! I guess that is the harsh reality of parenthood am I right? Hahaha.
Anyways, about today’s post, it isn’t generally inspired or directed toward anyone in particular (which usually my posts are). Basically I have been pondering over the subject of “compliments” lately and I just felt it was something I had to get off my chest.
I dunno about all of you but nothing makes me feel MORE awkward than a compliment about my looks. Like, what do I even say in return, I mean isn’t it kind of weird to acknowledge the appreciation of your physical appearance with total ease and comfort? Now a compliment in regards to my mind/intelligence/sense of humor that is a whole other story. Because you see I actually worked hard for those things, learning in school and reading books and the sense of humor well I guess that could run in the family but it also takes practice. I did not work for my looks at all, I just ended up this way, through the miracle of genetics (and overcoming that awkward stage, ya you all know the one I’m talking about, thank God that faded out). My point is how unbelievably weird it is to thank someone for something you took no part in. I mean if someone came over to your house and complimented a dinner that your significant other cooked, would you take the compliment and say thank you, or would you allow the one who actually did the work to receive the little boost to their ego? But then again it’s not like when someone says I am pretty I can just respond with “oh, my parents are the one’s who really deserve that, they made me” and then dial them up to hear about what a great job they did in making me so pretty. Thus proving my reaction of complete awkwardness to be the only one that makes any sense.
Moving on from face to face compliments let’s discuss compliments via texting/facebook/twitter/ any social media outlet you use. So I personally find it very amusing the way guys communicate these days. Like let me tell you, the second you text me “hey sexy”, the only response you’re going to get is “no”. I won’t explain myself and I will not text you again after that. Just no. Next, I am not sure why, but I always immediately laugh when I receive a text that also as some reference to my physical appearance. Perhaps it is due to the fact that the person texting me has absolutely NO idea how I look in that exact moment. I mean listen guys, if you text most girls “Hi Gorgeous” and she happens to be having one of those days where she feels she looks terrible, the LAST thing she is going to want to hear is the words “Gorgeous” or “Beautiful”. All that will do is remind them that they happen to look the exact opposite of those two lovely words and they will just feel even worse (crazy I know) it’s not all girls but it is some ESP depending on that time of the month.
If I really really think about this whole topic of discussion though I would have to say that my main issue is the context and situations in which those words are used. The words “Pretty” “Beautiful” “Cute” and etc are all ways to describe a physical appearance, so I feel it better used upon the arrival of the girl you are seeing when you meet up to hang out, when you ACTUALLY see them and the effort they probably put in to get ready for you. That is when the compliment might want to be received, at least by me anyway, because if I get ready for you then technically that is partially my hard work. When it is used as a greeting via text, it makes me feel as though it is said out of habit, due to the unfortunate lack of self esteem of women nowadays. Most girls are constantly demanding reassurance of their looks in attempt to help their insecurities, making guys feel the need to tell a girl she is beautiful or pretty or whatever, even if it’s a new girl who hasn’t implied any desire to hear it.
Before I sign off I leave you with this:
One compliment can affect a whole lifetime. Be bold and speak life-giving words.”
[Currently Listening to: Push by Matchbox Twenty]